Why I Felt Alone After Discovering My Partner’s Secret Porn Habit

Dear Fight the New Drug, Thank you for your efforts in freeing the world of sexual exploitation, destroyed relationships, and damaged minds. Today is my anniversary. Yes, my wedding anniversary, but also the anniversary of D Day, or Discovery Day. That is a term, among a multitude of others that I never wanted to learn. Two years ago today, I came home from transporting children to events. My husband was away at a holiday party for work. After tucking the kids in, I sat at the computer to pay bills. I noticed an odd legal pad on the desk. As [...]

2021-09-11T22:35:30+00:00September 9th, 2021|News Articles|0 Comments

Are You in a Situationship? How to Tell and What to Do About It

By Emily DiNuzzo Updated: Jul. 15, 2021 Every editorial product is independently selected, though we may be compensated or receive an affiliate commission if you buy something through our links. Ratings and prices are accurate and items are in stock as of time of publication. Here's what it means to be in a situationship and what experts recommend you do about these often confusing relationships. What is a situationship? Situationships are confusing to define and open to interpretation. The catch-all definition of a situationship is an undefined romantic relationship, according to sex and relationship therapist Joe Kort. “It isn’t given [...]

2021-09-02T04:52:09+00:00September 2nd, 2021|News Articles|0 Comments

The Many Masks of the Emotional Groomer

Summary by Emerald O’Brien Sexual con artists wear many “masks” to hide their true intentions. These masks can’t be seen as real masks can. They are invisible disguises meant to keep a con artist’s games from being discovered. But if youth learn to look closely, they will see that behind each mask is someone who wants to use and manipulate them. Targets also wear masks to cover up the shame, fear, or humiliation they feel. As a classroom project to illustrate how teenagers felt about being involved in a sexual con game, students made paper maché or plaster masks to [...]

2021-02-01T12:49:39+00:00February 1st, 2021|News Articles|0 Comments

Sex buyers want to normalize Sugar Dating. That’s regressive and dangerous.

With sugaring, an aggressively regressive system has been normalized in our society to the point that we have mainstream publications advising well-off men on how to exploit young women for sex. In Summer 2020, a Men’s Health article discussed the concept of “sugar dating” in disturbingly neutral terms – including what a sugar daddy looks for in a “sugar baby,” and how popular “sugaring” has become with unemployment on the rise from COVID-19. In the article, sugar dating is depicted as just another choice for women and is coded as “taking control of one’s life” and “being your own boss.” In history [...]

2020-09-09T17:01:07+00:00September 9th, 2020|News Articles|0 Comments

How The Media Groom Youth (Unmasking Sexual Con Games, Chapter 3)

Summary by Emerald O’Brien Emotional grooming is not limited to human relationships.  Media messages are grooming many teens and some adults.  The goal of any con game is to manipulate, persuade, or coerce someone into doing what the groomer wants. Many advertisers and media executives admit that they’ll do whatever it takes to get and keep your attention.  A high-ranking Abercrombie and Fitch popular pre-teen and teen clothier and magazine mogul commented to The New York Times,  “I pay little attention to the critics who feel that youth ought to be locked in boxes until they’re 50.  All [...]

2020-08-18T10:20:18+00:00August 18th, 2020|News Articles|0 Comments

9 Grooming Tactics Con Artists Use to Manipulate “Targets” (Unmasking Sexual Con Games, Chapter 2)

By Emerald O’Brien The Nine Grooming Tactics Con Artists use to gain control of a “target” include:  Jealousy and possessiveness, Insecurity, Intimidation, Anger, Accusations, Flattery, Status, Bribery and Control.  Once teens can recognize the specific tactics that groomers use to manipulate their targets they can more easily detect and avoid the “players.” Expressions of jealousy and other difficult feelings are normal from time to time but they are used by a con artist  to manipulate. These tactics are unhealthy in any relationship. You should never be pushed into a relationship that you’re not ready for. You need to develop [...]

2020-08-18T10:16:54+00:00August 9th, 2020|News Articles|0 Comments

Unmasking Sexual Con Games: Chapter One

Summary by Emerald O’Brien Emotional grooming is a process by which the perpetrator or “Con” manipulates their target’s emotions to seduce, coerce, or con them into sexual behavior.  They most likely learned their behavior from peers, media, or other adult role models.  Most Cons have never seen or experienced the mutual respect and selfless behaviors it takes to maintain or create a healthy relationship. Perpetrators of sexual crimes and that is what it is, can be male or female.  They need two things, first to control their victim to create a false sense of trust and second, secrecy.  [...]

2020-08-09T01:24:00+00:00August 9th, 2020|News Articles|0 Comments

Join Forces to Quell Your Inner Critic

Most people know it — even kid about it; that they are their own worst enemy. They are critical of themselves in ways they would never be of others. And when they stop long enough to pay attention, they can also acknowledge that they are the worse for all of that self-chastising. The problem is that, too often, they don’t try to stop, or don’t know how. Those who are masters at self-criticism often create relationship problems with it. Consider Nancy. She is a very nice woman who had a caring boyfriend, Steve. The problem is that she tends to [...]

2019-11-28T05:01:02+00:00November 27th, 2019|News Articles|0 Comments

In Relationships, Respect May Be Even More Crucial than Love

Love is not all you need, nor all your spouse or child needs; consider respect. By Peter Gray Ph.D. Courtesy of Psychology Today If you were to ask me if my parents loved me, I would, like Tevye and Golda in Fiddler on the Roof, have to pause and think. In the family I grew up in, love was a term used rather exclusively as the valediction in friendly letters.  It was rarely said aloud. We also weren’t big on hugging or kissing.  It was awkward for me when I left home and entered a different culture, where people regularly [...]

2019-09-20T19:20:07+00:00September 20th, 2019|News Articles|0 Comments