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5 Secrets to Finding Real Love

By Gregory L. Jantz Ph.D. Courtesy of Psychology Today The love of your life. Your soul mate. Your life partner. That special someone. Whether we admit it or not, many of us are seeking to find our perfect complement. We crave having someone by our side who will love us through our moments of imperfection, and share the memories of our lives with us. We’ve seen enough movies about it, so it must be possible, right? Love is no fairy tale, so you can stop looking for a perfect "10" who fulfills all the qualifications on your wish list. It [...]

2019-08-06T10:19:56+00:00August 6th, 2019|News Articles|0 Comments

The Surprising Keys to a Long-Lasting Relationship

New research shows the unexpected predictors of your relationship's stability. By Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D. Courtesy of Psychology Today Everyone would undoubtedly love to be able to peer into the relationship crystal ball to know whether they will remain with their partners, and for how long. Researchers who study the course of long-term relationships are often faced with the limitations of the one-shot or cross-sectional method, in which marital or other committed partners rate their satisfaction along with other key measures of interest, such as degree of conflict. Long-term, or longitudinal, studies have the advantage of being able to follow [...]

2019-07-19T20:04:18+00:00July 19th, 2019|News Articles|0 Comments

Do You Believe in Unconditional Love?

The difference between unconditional love and unconditional relationships. By Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. Courtesy of Psychology Today Do you believe in unconditional love? I am asked this question frequently in discussions... When I respond with a "yes", my questioners are usually puzzled. They wonder how I can believe in unconditional love, yet discuss very "conditional" dating and relating techniques such as reciprocal gift-giving, withholding forgiveness, rewarding a partner, etc. After all, they assume, if you love someone unconditionally and truly bond with them, then you don't ever try to influence, limit, persuade, or set boundaries with them...right? Their confusion over [...]

2019-07-10T10:02:01+00:00June 28th, 2019|News Articles|0 Comments

How to Avoid Toxic Relationships

Try these five tips when you are choosing friends and mates. By Elinor Greenberg, Ph.D. Courtesy of Psychology Today Many of us have had the experience of letting someone get close to us and then later regretting it. Toxic relationships can take many forms. We may have thought that someone was our best friend until she started making fun of us behind our back. Or, we may have idealized our handsome new love interest without really noticing that he gets drunk every night, flirts with other women, and gets irritated when we complain. Some of us spend years in unhealthy [...]

2019-06-09T04:10:25+00:00June 5th, 2019|News Articles|0 Comments

Book Review: I Always Cry at Weddings by Sara Goff

I Always Cra at Weddings by Sara Goff Published in 2015, Sara Goff's novel, I Always Cry at Weddings, is about Ava Larson, a young woman who is willing to lose everything in order to find true love. When it seems that everything is going wrong, Ava feels a loss of identity and the world seems different and dark. She starts to fear men and worries whether or not she would be ready for the right man when he presented himself. But she decides to live in faith, not fear. Goff's novel is a story that demonstrates the power of [...]

2019-05-29T16:54:28+00:00May 28th, 2019|News Articles|3 Comments

Healthy relationships lead to better lives

By Teddi Dineley Johnson Courtesy of The Nation's Health Unless you’re shipwrecked on a deserted island, you probably enjoy a handful of close relationships. From spouses to children to friends, parents, siblings and significant others, healthy relationships build self-esteem, improve mental and emotional health and help you live a fuller life. “Relationships are — not surprisingly — enormously important for health, and there are lots of studies on the biological processes that account for the link between relationships and health,” says psychology professor Arthur Aron, PhD, director of the Interpersonal Relationships Laboratory at New York’s Stony Brook University. The quality [...]

2019-05-21T18:41:40+00:00May 21st, 2019|News Articles|0 Comments

How to Free Your Relationship From Unwanted Expectations

Push back against "silent agreements," the unspoken rules of your relationship. Linda D. Anderson, Ph.D., Sonia R. Banks, Ph.D., and Michele L. Owens, Ph.D. of Silent Agreements Couresty of Psychology Today Your earliest relationships have a great influence on many of your behaviors, decisions, and conscious and unconscious motives. Silent agreements are the unspoken “rules” of your relationships. They grow from the assumptions, expectations, and beliefs that you don’t talk about but still hold others accountable for. They show up in every kind of relationship, and as you read on, you’ll probably discover that you’re participating in several silent agreements. [...]

2019-05-07T16:52:08+00:00May 7th, 2019|News Articles|0 Comments

How to Have Better Arguments with Your Significant Other

Use these 5 strategies for more productive disagreements. By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. Courtesy of Psychology Today No matter how strong your romantic relationship is, at some point you’re going to have disagreements. And while never arguing is an unrealistic goal, arguing better is an essential one. Thankfully all of us can improve the quality of our communication, including the way we argue. In my recent discussion with communication specialist Oren Jay Sofer on the Think Act Be podcast, I asked for his guidance on how we can communicate more effectively. He noted the following five principles for transforming our [...]

2019-04-19T08:31:53+00:00April 19th, 2019|News Articles|0 Comments

The Key to Having an Adult Relationship

By Steven Stosny, Ph.D. Courtesy of Psychology Today It turns toddler love into fulfilling mature connection. We fall in love in the Toddler brain, the emotional, impulsive, and volatile limbic system, which reaches structural maturity by age 3. We stay in love in the profoundest and most stable part of the Adult brain — the prefrontal cortex, which reaches full myelination at around 28. Toddler love is filled with wonder and joy at first, but inevitably reeks of conflict and pain due to its self-obsession and inability to see other people’s perspectives. Adult love rises from our deepest, most humane values of [...]

2019-04-05T10:23:01+00:00April 5th, 2019|News Articles|0 Comments

5 Things All Healthy Relationships Require

Healthy relationships are available to everyone, you just need to know what they require to exist. Here are five things that all healthy relationships require: By Ruby Fremon, Contributor Courtesy of Huff Post Toxic. Abusive. Destructive. Unhealthy. These aren't words that we'd want to associate with relationships, yet so many of us have experienced this or are still experiencing this. Why? This is a question I used to ask myself often... I was that girl. The one caught in a string of toxic, abusive, destructive and downright unhealthy relationships. I would commit the same mistakes over and over again, barely [...]

2019-03-22T15:25:40+00:00March 22nd, 2019|News Articles|0 Comments