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Open Letter to Girls Abandoned by Their Fathers

Personal Perspective: Words of validation to help you love yourself.

Kaytee Gillis, LCSW-BACS, November 1, 2023 

  • Women who were abandoned by a father often feel a strong sense of self-doubt and struggle to love themself
  • They have a greater chance of entering relationships in which they are mistreated or not loved.
  • Understanding that abandonment is not about them is crucial for healing, but it is not easy.

I was climbing the side of a mountain. I had never had any training, yet there I was, stuck to the side of a large mound of rocks, miles in the sky, attempting to locate my father. I found him just out of reach on the mountainside when, like magic, the mountain grew and expanded, prolonging my journey toward him. I continued scaling the mountainside but while I seemed to get closer and closer, the hoped-for reunion was always just out of reach.

If I told my dream to Sigmund Freud or Carl Jung, they would make easy work of analyzing it: Like many survivors before me, I was attempting to navigate the trauma of abandonment and the obstacle of trying to […]

November 23rd, 2023|News Articles|

Sandy Bober shares her personal testimony about being raped in college, her infection with an STD and her struggles and ultimate victory to regain her self-esteem, healthy relationships and a successful marriage.

Here at Love Smarts, we would like to share helpful information including personal stories of relationship successes and failures, insights from psychology and human experience about what leads to lasting love relationships.

We look forward to hearing from YOU which articles were meaningful and also about what you have learned from your own life experience, whether that was a top-of-the mountain joy or a relationship disaster!

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