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Open Letter to Girls Abandoned by Their Fathers

Personal Perspective: Words of validation to help you love yourself.

Kaytee Gillis, LCSW-BACS, November 1, 2023 

  • Women who were abandoned by a father often feel a strong sense of self-doubt and struggle to love themself
  • They have a greater chance of entering relationships in which they are mistreated or not loved.
  • Understanding that abandonment is not about them is crucial for healing, but it is not easy.

I was climbing the side of a mountain. I had never had any training, yet there I was, stuck to the side of a large mound of rocks, miles in the sky, attempting to locate my father. I found him just out of reach on the mountainside when, like magic, the mountain grew and expanded, prolonging my journey toward him. I continued scaling the mountainside but while I seemed to get closer and closer, the hoped-for reunion was always just out of reach.

If I told my dream to Sigmund Freud or Carl Jung, they would make easy work of analyzing it: Like many survivors before me, I was attempting to navigate the trauma of abandonment and the obstacle of trying to […]

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Sandy Bober shares her personal testimony about being raped in college, her infection with an STD and her struggles and ultimate victory to regain her self-esteem, healthy relationships and a successful marriage.

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We look forward to hearing from YOU which articles were meaningful and also about what you have learned from your own life experience, whether that was a top-of-the mountain joy or a relationship disaster!

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