How to Avoid Toxic Relationships
Try these five tips when you are choosing friends and mates.
By Elinor Greenberg, Ph.D.
Courtesy of Psychology Today
Many of us have had the experience of letting someone get close to us and then later regretting it. Toxic relationships can take many forms. We may have thought that someone was our best friend until she started making fun of us behind our back. Or, we may have idealized our handsome new love interest without really noticing that he gets drunk every night, flirts with other women, and gets irritated when we complain. Some of us spend years in unhealthy relationships that make us very unhappy.
One approach to avoiding these toxic relationships is to learn how to quickly recognize psychological disorders that come with a lot of relationship baggage. Unfortunately, very few of us are trained to diagnose other people. However, we are very well equipped to notice other people’s impact on us. All it takes is for us to trust our gut reactions and pay close attentionto how we actually feel when we are with new people. Below are some tips that can help you assess whether your new friend or love interest is likely to be toxic for you.
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