Join Forces to Quell Your Inner Critic
Most people know it — even kid about it; that they are their own worst enemy. They are critical of themselves in ways they would never be of others. And when they stop long enough to pay attention, they can also acknowledge that they are the worse for all of that self-chastising. The problem is that, too often, they don’t try to stop, or don’t know how.
Those who are masters at self-criticism often create relationship problems with it. Consider Nancy. She is a very nice woman who had a caring boyfriend, Steve. The problem is that she tends to doubt herself a lot and often expects that people will judge her for her mistakes or failings. Because of this, every time Steve complimented her, she asked him why he would even say what he did or went on to explain how he was wrong. At first, Steve was eager to prove that she really was wonderful. But, after a few months, he grew so tired and frustrated by this that he began to associate spending time with Nancy with being annoyed. Soon he began making excuses to do things without her and eventually broke off the relationship.
If you, like Nancy, […]
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